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Guy,

I am so sorry. When my mom's cancer came back it was very, very rapid. We found out it was back on Good Friday. She came home the following Monday and was gone by Thursday and she was a strong 61 year old woman. Pancreatic cancer has a survival rate of only 4%. I was hoping that your mom would be one of those 4%. I have been where you are or a similar situation anyway. I wasn't battling cancer myself and I can't imagine you dealing with this and your own health issues at the same time.

I have no words to make it better. You will hear all kinds of words from people meaning well, but I can't say I found any comfort in anything anyone said. I walked around in a fog doing what had to be done. It is difficult even now (4 years later) to hear Mother's Day ads. I will say that we learned to take things one day at a time sometimes one hour and sometimes one minute at a time to get through it. I still miss her every day, but at least I have gotten past the stage where I expect her to walk through the door any minute. It is a very difficult journey, but it just has to be done. I worried about my dad because they had been married for 43 years, but he has coped well and has gone on with his life. He has a GF now and is doing well.

Take things one minute at a time if you have to; if you feel like crying, cry; if you feel liking screaming, scream. If you feel like hitting something, beat the crap out of a pillow. I'm rambling but the bottom line is that we do what we have to do. Time does not heal all wounds, but it makes the pain bearable.

We are all here for you if you need to vent and will be sending you positive thoughts and prayers.

PS cancer SUCKS!!!!!

Hugs,